I'm 16 and am dating a 22 year old and it's made my life so much better : offmychest
According to the rule, for example, a year-old should be with a partner who is at least 22, while a year-old's dating partner must be at least 32 to not attract. Theres def something wrong with a 23 year old who wants a 16 year old. I'm not % But I think 17 years is the age of consent so make. You know those girls who refuse to date anyone younger than they are, or whatever you want to call what has been 23 years of going through men, something lads, your day will come something I'm sure you all.
For her protection, and for yours. No matter how honorable your intentions or hersthere may be other people who may try to turn any opportunity into a chance to "get" you. Whatever you do together, do it in public - go to the zoo, concerts, parks, etc.
In your case 0. Sorry, looks like you have to wait till you're 23 and she's Yeah, I know it's not a real rule but it does have a certain intuitive appeal. B On the other hand if you can keep it non-nude for a couple of years, then that's ok too ; posted by singingfish at 5: There is really no upside to having this relationship at this point.
Arizona society has issued its opinion on the issue, wrong or not. You can fight City Hall on this concept, and maybe win, but it still means a fight. Fights are costly and since the 'other guy' is much bigger, your chances are slim to none in prevailing.
Its wiser to avoid a fight. What's truly remarkable about Mr. Blackout, is that you are doing it in advance! This will come in handy over the next few decades. Congratulations on making a good choice and taking care of both of you.
Are you freaking serious? When true love knocked on my door, she'd just barely turned sixteen; And I was a little bit nervous, if you know just what I mean. But I heard somewhere that true love conquers all, and figured that was that, then I started havin' dreams 'bout bein' chased out of town wearin' nothing but my cowboy hat.
I said, "No deal We did not actually have sex, though it was very difficult. In the end, despite that she was very mature for fifteen, the age difference wound up being a problem. This is a distinct possibility that complicates things further. Shame about the law, but there it is. A friend of mine dated a girl that was under 18 in Phoenix, AZ. He was probably 19 or This was a few years back, so I don't remember exact age. But, he got consent from the parents and started dating this chick.
A month down the road, he pissed the girl off, which in turn pissed off the parents and they took it to the cops. They warned him to stay away, but how could he? He already spent a month dating this chick like every day and he wanted to work things out.
And you know she probably only stayed upset for like a day or two, while the parents never forgot. So while trying to work things out picking her up from school, taking her out more, etc he somehow ended up in prison for few years. I guess the moral of the story is that parents can change their mind about consent while you too are deeply in love. Especially with this discussion here, now, in the public record.
There were upsides and downsides but ultimately it didn't work out. I couldn't go to bars with him which was a pain. His friends' girlfriends were older and thought I was too young and weren't particilarly nice about it.
He wanted to have sex and I didn't want to. In my world this was normal and in his world it totally wasn't. When I stayed out late with him it was, again, normal for him and really not normal for me. In fact, my Mom flipped out once when I came home at 3 am and threatened to have him arrested for statutory.
That fight has created a rift between us to this day my Mom and I. In the end, we broke up because I didn't want to have sex with him. In looking back at it, he was somewhat immature and generally into dating high school girls, which seemed cool to me, a high school girl, at the time, but now I'm sort of like "what was he thinking? If it were me, I'd wait and see what college brings her, assuming she'll ber more independent from her family, out on her own etc.
On the off chance that she's the one for you, she'll still be there. Ok, good, my work here is done for those of you who are late to the game. Congreve posted by bilabial at 8: You don't want nothin' to do with this. Be nice, but be clear that she is too young for you to date. Recommend she date some young men nearer her own age. Even without the "jailbait" angle, this guy could murder you or get a cop buddy to do it and get away with it.
You could be shot while "resisting arrest" or something; not too long ago a cop in my city shot a guy in the back as he was running away "because he feared for his life".
Is it normal for a 16 and 23 year old to date?
Try to stay out of jail. This means having a little sexual discipline, but it isn't like you can't touch each other. Try to take it very slow.
She's really young and naive and her parents are divorced so she'll have some issues. This is always essential when dating. Be open and honest with yours. Having a cop in the family is always good. What a bunch of whiners on this thread. Like age gaps never worked out in relationships. Check out the divorce rate. Being the same age never helped anyone. Wait until she is 18 to start dating her.
If you fall in love for 'er and 'er and get married, it'll be a romantic story. I would run run run run from any grown man who dated a high school girl. If you don't, there are two things that will happen- you'll stay together until you die, or you'll break up. If you fall in love He learned the valuable lesson that if you actually have to look up statutory rape laws in your area to make sure your relationship is legal, you really shouldn't be in that relationship.
He didn't let it happen They've been married over 30 years now and have raised 3 great kids. I tried that with some one older than me once. Turned out, I was in love and he just wanted to bang me.
It is good to get perspective on intentions for all parties. Your question was, is it okay socially and legally for you date this girl? The answer is no, and no. One thing I don't understand is why love keeps coming up.
I don't know about you guys but I can't fall in love with someone after a month a month of not dating even.
16 year old dating 23 year old
I've only been in one relationship before this, it lasted five years and I'm not totally sure I was in love with her, as I have nothing to compare it too. FauxScot thank you for the kind words. I do somewhat pride myself on my logical more then emotional outlook on life, and thinking things through is just something I do it's just the way I am.
Sadly I often over think things, and that as well has caused problems with past and possible relationships. Seriously don't do it. Even if for some really bizarre reason her parents are fine with it, that means they're fine with it now. That doesn't mean they'll still be fine with it tomorrow or after a few weeks or after a few months.
Take that thought even further, if they decide to press charges admittingly far-featched but still very possible, dad's a cop yo. You're a 21 year old man going after a 16 year old girl.
Right or wrong, you have no defense. Seriously, don't do it. What matters greatly is the circumstances, mainly whether her parent s are likely to have you busted and declared a Sex Offender or not. By the way, does it strike anybody else as stupid that consensual relations with a young woman who's legal in the next state can ruin someone's life, and that a lot of employers etc.
Admittedly this sounds less likely than ruining your life by making sure you become a Registered Sex Offender, but still. My advice is don't do it because it's "wrong" it isn't or because it's illegal so's potbut don't do it because her father is a cop.
If you do insist on being involved with her then make sure you always drive the speed limit, never drink and drive, never possess any illegal substances, try to follow the letter of every law you can think of, and let her win every argument she thinks is important.
You'd basically be mortgaging your manhood and your sanity for fear she really will "Tell Daddy on you. Like jessamyn, I very briefly dated a year-old with whom I broke up because I didn't want to have sex.
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I also dated a really, really nice guy who put the brakes on due to my age and always behaved appropriately. I remember him fondly, but while it seemed like a big deal at the time, I really just went out with him a couple of times right before I left for college.
Looking back, echoing brittanie, I was more flattered by the attention than really interested. As for the age difference being a problem between just you and her, I don't think it would be fair to you or her to not give the relationship a chance based on that. You'll never know if it's a deal-breaker or not unless you let the relationship run it's course. This applies to any conflict that comes up in the early parts of a relationship.
I was 16 when I started by relationship with my fiance, who was In my state, the age of consent is 16, although I was 17 by the time we had intercourse. I'm 17 right now, but will be 18 when I'm married So far my parents have taken my fiance very well, they both like him a lot and are confident he's doing his best to treat me well.
His parents seem to be afraid that their son is taking advantage of a young, impressionable sixteen year old The first man I fell in love with I kept a secret the entirety of our relationship. I was 14 when it began and he was ten years older. There were many things wrong with our relationship, but I don't feel like the age difference was one of them.
Right now, I'm watching my girlfriends who are older than me make the same mistakes I did then. Sixteen-year-old girls can appear very mature - especially when you want them to - but they're still kids. Adult males made sexual advances toward me when I still very much felt like a child, and it was scary.
In retrospect, I'm sure that some of those guys were deluding themselves into thinking that I was "very mature for my age", which made it okay, I guess? Even if this kid is giving you the impression that she a wants you and b knows what it is to want an adult male, the second cannot be true. She's probably more mature than a lot of year-olds, there's a good chance she's more mature than a lot of year-olds, but there are so many unknowns towards the beginning of any relationship that "Will I end up on a sex offender's registry for the rest of my life and be banned from certain jobs and even neighborhoods?
Jail is not fun. For sex offenders, it is really, really not fun. Everyone will hate you in jail. You would run a very high risk of being sexually assaulted, beaten up on a regular basis or maybe even killed. Shtupping this girl is illegal 3: If you are dating her, people will reasonably assume, at some point or another, that you are shtupping her.
Her father is an agent of the law 5: If her father manages to nail you, he will be in a good position to make sure that you spend several years of your life learning more than you ever wanted to know about number 1. Is that logical enough for you? Just to chime in with my own experience: We got physical within a few weeks of meeting. Six years later we're married. We've both grown and changed so much that I feel like it's been three or four serious relationships in one.
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